The Frozen Self  

You're not numb because you're fine. You're numb because you've been running on autopilot longer than you've noticed.

Barely registering the eye roll that used to sting. Not feeling relief when help shows up. Going blank when someone asks what you're into these days. That's not you being unbothered. That's what happens when feeling your own wants stopped serving a purpose, so somewhere along the way your system quieted them down.

She's not gone. She's frozen. And frozen things can thaw, but only once you stop mistaking the freeze for who you actually are.

Who you believe you are is more important than anything else in life, and right now, part of what you believe is "I don't really have wants anymore." That's the belief this is really about, not a lack of feeling, just feeling that's gone quiet.

Naming this pattern is the first step in breaking it and you just did it. Here's the part that's hard to hear: naming the Frozen Self doesn't thaw it. You can know exactly why you went numb and still feel nothing tomorrow. What actually starts the thaw isn't more insight, it's a specific first move most women never get shown, because everyone stops at "you're not alone" and calls that enough.